This book really made me think about my life as a stay at home mom and growing my son to be a respectful young man. He is only five and at the moment, my only child, but I can see the "entitlement" he feels even as of now. In reading Cleaning House, I related to Kay quite a bit..finding myself picking my sons stuff off the floor..making his bed..basically doing the simplest things, that he should be doing himself. I really took it into perspective to focus on things my son is capable of, things I should be allowing him to do, to build his self confidence and knowledge.
As Kay wrote "When I step in, fix problems, and do those little household chores (or homework!), i send the message that they can't do it themselves. And if they can't do the small things, how will they ever attempt the big things? "
That stood out strong to me. I don't want to enable my son from doing the things I know he will be great at. I want him to feel confident that he can do whatever he puts his mind to. I want him to know how to make his own bed, put his clothes away, and help clean up. These are things he has learned to do over the years and I don't want to take that away, by me feeling like I can get it done faster or better. While reading Cleaning House, I realized a lot of things need to be done and put into our life patterns. I loved Kay's idea of having her kids help with dinner, so I decided I would take that and use it with my son. He loves to help cook so I decided I will let him have one day a week to make any dinner he wants (within reason) and I will take him to get the ingredients needed and let him do the work. I will only help where he needs it. I've learned a lot about myself and my role as a stay at home mom, while reading. I really loved this book and I recommend it to any mom out there!! Especially the mom's of many :)
Kay Wyma has a blog called MOAT you should check out :) You can also find her on Facebook and you can read the first chapter of her book Cleaning House, HERE!
*This review is made possible by the Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group via Blogging for Books,
by providing me a copy of the book in exchange for my honest review. All opinions my own.